How should I approach a women at a bar or club?
DIPAM SHAH asked:
I know I am doing something wrong. I want to ask a girl out on a date at a bar or club. How should I approach the whole process. I want to date somebody and get to know them, so I can finally give up my virginity. I am 22 years old and feel now is the time to do it. I specifically want to date a blonde white girl, but the problem is haha not very many are into indian guys. I am pretty intelligant. Have a degree from a tier one school in Public Health and minor in business. I am not that much of a dancer. I drive a nice car and dress well above average. ABout 175 pounds, built, black hair, brown eyes, dark brown skin. I want to lose it by august 15th. So i want to basically meet a girl that i could start dating ASAP. I look back now and i can say i have never really had a girlfriend. Ive made out with chicks when i got drunk at clubs and bars, but thats about it. Never went any further than that. I always focused on my schooling, so I could make myself financially secure.
I want to be honest. Im 22 now. Just imagine. I want to get laid, but I want to get laid by my girlfriend not some one night stand. SO i have to get a girlfriend first? I specifically want to date a blonde white girl. Please give me some pointers.
how feasable is this to do within one month? I just want an honest answer, because i feel most white blonde girls are not into dark indian guys haha. I would aslo like to mention i was born and raised in the states here.
Ok i forgot to mention I have had opportuities to get laid, but I wasnt attracted to them because they were to fat or I just couldnt see myself with them. Do you guys think im to picky?
Ok i forgot to mention I have had opportuities to get laid, but I wasnt attracted to them because they were to fat or I just couldnt see myself with them. Do you guys think im to picky?
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7 Responses to “How should I approach a women at a bar or club?”
sorry i found it too long i didnt read anything but the tittle!
but i say that at a bar you dont find real relationships only one night standS!
Listen, just stop being friggin scared. Go over there like, “hell yea! Lets talk…” Not like, “oh oh oh… maaaan i’m nervous what am I going to say?!”
You’re alraedy doing it wrong. Girls are people. Infact girls are even smaller than you (if they’re not then that’s a kind of a problem), they don’t bite, they can’t hurt you, just go over there and talk.
It’s more about the looks, if you have em it’s easier to talk aswell. Start doing somekind of sport, that should help with the looks.
this is what works, go up and say are you single. if yes, ask to buy her a drink and take if from there.
if she says no, shes not interested
x
You haven’t been able to do in in 22 years so I think doing it in one month isn’t very feasible. Leave the bars and try an online dating service.
Bars and clubs are not always the best way to get a relationship started unless you get really lucky. Whenever I go went to a club (before I got married) I learned very quickly not to trust guys at clubs or bars for a real relationship.
Finding a proper girlfriend takes time and you need to get a proper conversation started to get a feel for the kind of person they are and what their intrests and beliefs in life are.. You may want to try getting to know some gals in other places, like the gym or work or through eharmony.com where you can sit down and have a serious talk or understanding with that person.
And getting laid to loose your virginity in a month shouldn’t be your priority. Meeting the right person should be the top of the list. Finding the right person is going to take some time or some serious good luck!
well for 1 why a blonde white girl? I’m a naturally brunette white girl and my best friend is an Indian girl and she is about a billion times prettier than me… or my blonde sister for that fact…. if you want to loose it to a woman you love you shouldn’t narrow it down to specifically blonde white girls…. because you never know where love will come from… I’m 17 and I’m totally in love with my bf who is a sailor and 26….definitely not the guy or the life style i planned when i was a little girl but love isn’t planned and i wouldn’t have my life any other way now… just open your self up a bit more and if you are all you say you are you shouldn’t have any trouble finding a dedicated wonderful girl…. and by the way you probably wont find any nice girls at the clubs or bars… and if she really cares about who you are your job, car, appearance and schooling wont make a difference… just like she wont care how you dance… lol
Go to a bar or club. Spot a girl that shows promise and ask her if you can buy her a drink. Then start talking and asking her questions about her self. Do you come her often? What type work do you do? Do you have a boy friend ect? Offer to take her out to dinner. Ask for her phone No. I hope this helps. Good luck.