Single Mom, No car, no job, ex is a freak, should I trade car for pensions?
alexandria1_1999 asked:
I am in desperate need of opinions to help me decide what to do here. Here’s a little background…I left my ex well over a year ago as he was extremely abusive and unfaithful, the divorce has also been in the works for well over a year now. We have 2 children that I have custody of. I have since met a great guy and am expecting a third child in July. My ex, even though he has and had a girlfriend before I even left him, told me he would take my car if I did not stop seeing my current guy. He has a company vehicle he uses and never drove our car, it was my only means of transport. I was making the payments and kept it locked up with the club which worked well for many months until I started getting comfortable and forgetting to put it on. One morning in October I woke and found it was gone along with all of our personal belongings in it. He took it and hid it somewhere. He said I can have it back if I get back with him. Never going to happen. So I lost my job and had to stop
going to school, then I found out I was pregnant. So I have not had a job or a car since October. Money is getting tight and I have a baby coming in July. He tells me now that I can have the car back if I give up his pensions. According to my attorney I would be entitled to about 30-40G in 17 years when he retires. We still owe 20G on the car and it is only worth about 10. Should I just go ahead and do this trade, as not having a job and money now is getting ridiculously hard, and the pension is not really doing me much good at this point in my life. He says he will pay it off but I will have no entitlement to the pensions. I don’t know what to do. This divorce and not working since Oct has devastated my credit to the point that I will probably not even be able to get a car loan for another car and without a job I can’t afford to save up even for a cheap junk car. What should I do? Thanks for any input you can give me!
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7 Responses to “Single Mom, No car, no job, ex is a freak, should I trade car for pensions?”
To answer your question you perhaps either should have kept your legs crossed or married rich like I did. If your husband wasn’t wealthy, then you shouldn’t have put up with the abuse.
I hope you don’t expect the government (and my tax dollars) to help you after this mistake.
wow hes a jerk im sorry um i say marry your bf!
First of all, you have to stop talking to him whatsoever. He is only trying to still control you. Consult Legal Aid or an attorney who’s willing to help you knowing your situation. They will send him something that says any further communication is to be done through the attorney, not you. And DON’T GIVE IN and talk to him, even a little bit. Get a restraining order if you have to. Do not make any “agreements” with him, because for all you know he will go back on them. You are entitled to alimony and/or child support whether or not he “agrees” to it.
Is your current boyfriend helping in any way? Taking you to job interviews, etc.?
If you can possibly stick it out, The pension would be good for you and your children in the future, Now what about your other boy friend he got you pg. Now he can help Let the new boy friend do the right thing , Let him help you a car is only a car they make a new one every day and one will come along and you will have both car and pension, good luck girl I really feel for you , Wish I could help
Never give up the pension. You might be able to cash in the pension. Talk to your attorney before you do anything. He should help you get the car back.
Also you can get welfare if he is not paying you child support. The law can force him to pay child support by taking it out of his check.
Check the laws in your state. You might can get alimony depends on your state law.
You will need the pension later on.
You have a difficult and sad life.
Should have kept your legs closed….
Sorry hun but don’t mooch off the damn welfare. Get a job.
ok, where’s the new great guy? Go for the pensions but ask to be paid out now. My sis-in-law did that to my bro.
Is the car in your name or his? if yours, report it stolen, if his, let him have it, it’s worth nothing to you. PENSIONS! And get the father of your baby to help you out until the divorce is final. Your ex is trying to scare you. your lawyer should be talking you through this and getting you a fair settlement.